In this article, I share two insights that will help counselors understand the dynamics between a mother and daughter of any age. And in my office, all too often I hear mothers and daughters voice their frustrations about the lack of specialized help. For example, only in 2016 was the Adult Daughter-Mother Relationship Questionnaire developed (for more, see Julie Cwikel’s article in The Family Journal). This lack of focus on the mother-daughter relationship creates unnecessary anxiety among counselors and psychotherapists, and frustration for female clients. They blame the absence of specialized training. Colleagues frequently tell me that they feel unprepared when it comes to working with mothers and daughters. She said that she struggled to identify the core reasons for their arguments, and she knew that the communication skills and boundaries she tried to instill in them did not address the core reasons for their relationship difficulties. An experienced counselor recently admitted to me that she felt out of her depth when a mother and adult daughter both came to see her for help with their incessant arguing.